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friday poem 2


that time of the month that means i want to spit fire at my husband when he tells me to ‘jaldi, jaldi’ (hurry up) in the mornings.

that time when the honking horns of Mumbai traffic  freakin’ well get on my nerves.

that time when I feel like gouging the eyes out of the taxi driver who stares at my chest.

that time when all reason goes out the door.

that time when I thank god I had the foresight to organise a girls night out with a friend tonight.

that time when I turn into a volcano when a telemarketer dares to try and sell insurance to me.

that time when anyone cutting into a queue in front of me will get a stare as cold as antartica and a loaded ‘excuse me’ that will convey what I actually mean: who do you think you are, you f*’n f*er,  and how dare you think you can cut in front of me? You think your time is more valuable than mine? Did you mother never teach you any manners? Do you even know what the word manners means? I bet you don’t, you f*er.

that time when I dont feel guilty about low balling the subziwallah in the bargaining game.

that time when chocolate is a freakin health product – it’s made out of milk isnt it?

that time when red wine is also a freakin’ health product – grapes?!

that favourite time of month that makes being a woman really special.

see you monday, i’m off to tape up my mouth for the weekend.


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you little beauty

The Black Caps continued their storming roll through the World Cup with a solid win over the West Indies last night. Our bowlers looked in beautiful form with Bond, Oram and Vettori all getting 3 wickets each. Fleming had some great shots and looked good with the bat – his run out was one of the only disappointments of the match, it would have been great to see him play to the end. Styris got a good 80 not out, starting out nice and slowly to support Fleming and then getting on with it when he needed to.

All around good performance, really looking forward to seeing how this team comes up against Australia and South Africa later on in the round.

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Indian cricket team

K and I went for dinner last night at a restaurant in the Taj hotel. We finished up quite late, around 1am, and when we went outside we discovered a large group of cops by the entrance. We figured there must be a bollywood star arriving but then looked around further and noticed another 10 cops by the street, a police van and the anti-riot water cannon truck backing into place… hmmmm what could it all mean..? We asked the concierge and found out that Greg Chappell, the coach of the Indian Cricket team, was on his way from the airport and would be staying at the hotel for a few days.. of course – one of the most hated men in India right now, something could easily erupt.

As we drove away we noticed that police were camped on every corner of the building, a total of about 50 men in all I’d say. You gotta feel a bit sorry for the man. Not only does his surname mean ‘sandel’ (as in shoe, as in jandel for the kiwis out there) in hindi, he is also going to be at the bad end of a pretty harsh blame game for one of the worst performances of cricket in India’s World Cup history. I don’t feel sorry for the players – I think most of them need a shake up to realise that they are in the team to play cricket, not to sell hair products or soft drinks for big bucks – but I do feel a little sorry for Chappell.. I’m sure the Indian selection system and arrogant players didn’t help with his game plan.



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The world’s tallest man, Bao Xishun, got married a few days ago. He stands at 2.36m (7ft 8.95in) tall and tied the knot with Xia Shujian He sounds like something of a celebrity with BBC having this to say: 

“The 54-year-old gained fame last year when he saved two dolphins by pulling dangerous plastic from their stomachs. He used his long arms to remove shards that the animals had swallowed at an aquarium in Fushun, north-east China.

News of Mr Bao’s wedding has delighted commentators in China. The Beijing News reported: “After sending out marriage advertisements across the world and going through a long selection process, the efforts have finally paid off.” ”

now ain’t that sweet?

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Being a foreigner in India married to an Indian I often get asked about how I feel about Indian marriage values compared to the ‘western world’. I first say well I dont know where the western world is but I know about NZ. Today I had another journalist email me with questions about a foreign-india marriage article she is writing. One of the questions she mentioned is one which gets me quite riled up quite often:

it’s often cited that marriage as an institution is weak in foreign countries compared to India? Do you agree? If yes/ no why?

 I DO think that the instituton of marriage is stronger in India but I don’t think that it is always in a positive way. Middle aged/older Indian women, who have spent their younger years working as homemakers and raising the children – what support do they have if they ever wanted to leave their marriage? It is close to impossible for them to go straight into the workplace (even though some of these women would be fantastic managers!), so would need training first – but how to pay for that? and to pay rent? Women really get the sharp end of the stick in terms of the ‘institution of marriage’ in India. I see this entrapment reinforced in popular culture, where all cleanings products are pictured as being handled by women only, and the daily ‘soap operas’ depict shallow and argueing women in stay-at-home roles, surrounded by primary colors, expensive sarees and metre-thick makeup – far from reality and giving women a false and superficial ‘perfect world’.In comparison, in NZ, marriage is admittedly undervalued, and I would say that it is not worked at as hard as it is in India. It is probably seen as less binding and less of a lifetime commitment. But this is because there is recognition of the fact that people change and grow and so do relationships – sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse.  Of course the NZ government also has the luxury of being able to afford financial support to women that are living on their own and trying to work and bring up children, which in turns gives women who are trapped in bad marriages the power to leave. It does amaze me that in India, where finding household support in the form of cleaners/nannies/cooks is so affordable, that more women don’t take the opportunity to study/get into the work place/start their own business themselves. I hope that we see this happening more with this generation.

I find that stereotype of a ‘weak’ marriage institution in the West a very stereotypical and narrow view. I think in NZ we have CHOICE, which , unfortunatly, many Indian women do not have.

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I have yet to met our mysterious and unlucky new colleague as he has been out visiting various ports around India since he arrived. You may remember however, the unfortunate airport incident when he arrived inMumbai.

I just talked to Capt. George, a Greek associate who is showing him around and was distressed to learn that Mohammed’s luck isn’t getting any better..  today he fell off the jetty into the ocean, complete with his laptop and other necessary items in his bag on his back.

oh dear. Apparently he’s fine, but I guess his spirits must be a bit dampened by now..

is it mean to laugh? 

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